Jon and Kate Plus 8

Suppose you see someone walking down the street and they are approaching a gigantic pit. You keep watching and notice that this person doesn’t seem to know what is coming. There he is in his own ignorance about to fall in a pit that may kill him. Would you say anything? Would you shout, “Hey there, you’re about to walk into danger?” Would you do everything possible to help this person avoid something traumatic?

I think about this analogy related to a lot of marriages. Specifically this time I think of Jon and Kate (you know from the hit TLC show “Jon and Kate Plus 8”). It was so obvious to all of us. Kate was continually nagging Jon. Jon knew that he had trouble communicating and just let her do it. They never took time to work on their marriage. They spent a lot of time apart. So, who here is at fault? Of course both of them, but my beef this time is with Jon. I’ve had my own issues with Kate, but this time it is Jon.

On the show where Jon and Kate announced their divorce, Jon almost seemed gleeful at his new freedom. If you’ve seen him lately he has grown a lot more hair, put in earrings, and been driving a sports car. Can anyone see the midlife crisis here? He kept saying during the show that everything is about his kids. They are most important. I’m sorry, the best thing you can do for your kids is to fix your marriage. If you really have the best interest of your kids in mind, you’ll do whatever it takes to fix it.

I believe that Jon is the one who stood by and let the family fall into a pit. He knew he wasn’t happy. He knew he didn’t like Kate controlling everything. He knew he was making poor decisions when he went out at night. He even said on the announcement show that he let Kate rule the roost for far too long and now he was putting his foot down. What a man. Putting his foot down by allowing divorce to tear his family apart. He knew this pit was coming and did nothing to resolve the problem. I propose that he is the responsible party. If you know your family is headed toward something terrible and you do nothing about it, you are at fault even though you may try to blame the other person for all the wrong things they have done.

So Jon, I’m disappointed. I expected more. I cannot believe a family could work so hard to get somewhere to now get there and let it all fall apart.